It is never a question of whether you can do something or not. The real question is how bad do you want it?
There are countless stories of people from every walk of life beating the odds and accomplishing something that no one, probably even themselves at times, thought they could accomplish. From cancer survivors to successful entrepreneurs to professional athletes, there are qualities that remain consistent.
A willingness to sacrifice.
A willingness to work hard.
These, of course, are only a few. A quick study or observance of anyone whom you find to be successful in life will easily reveal what’s necessary to become successful. Watch the actions of someone at work. Listen to a parent. Talk to a friend. Lessons can come from anywhere. Use these lessons to help you realize that anything is possible.
Never grow accustomed to losing and remember that if you “want something bad enough [you’ll] always find a way to get through.” – The Stones
Also check out Tim Ferriss’s blog. I recently found Tim’s blog and podcast and discovered that his approach is similar to the thoughts presented in this post. In his book, Tools of Titans, he discusses the different traits that have led to success in a wide array of industries and professions.
Never stop looking for the next lesson and those that have found success in life are a great source for it.
At one time or another, we have all felt lost.
The origins of stress in this world are countless. Personal struggles, tough relationships, career paths, illness…these only begin the list. We sometimes feel that we have to take on the world alone. In a sense, this is true. With everyone in this world dealing with their own set of problems, it is on you to deal with yours. To do this, attempt to reflect on your own life. Identify and break down each of the origins of stress to gain a better understanding of them. Continue what has worked in the past and change what has not. There is a reason some things do not work out in your life and it’s important to accept them and move on with your life.
You cannot remain dwelling on endless games.
As you begin to understand more, unanswered and sometimes daunting questions will soon be answered. The lesson will be learned and over time, the student will become the teacher. Stress will begin to wane as you discover the true meaning behind the happenings in your life. This sometimes takes looking at your life from another perspective. Ask questions. Look beyond the things you see everyday.
You can find the world written between the pages.
Soon, you will realize that all along it was you that was able to break down your life into manageable pieces, understand the origins of your stress, become hungry for more wisdom and live a positive life.
Ryan Egan – “Between the Pages”
You can’t always control everything in your life. As hard as you may work, and as focused as you may be, there will still be things that that are out of your control. Knowing this and accepting this will allow you to move forward and be as successful as you can be with the hand that you were dealt.
“Things aren’t working out like they’re supposed to but at least they’re working out.”
With this knowledge, take a look at your life. There is a reason things are the way they are. Most of us aren’t rich so we have to learn the value of a dollar and in turn, we truly appreciate hard work, regardless of the monetary outcome. Most of us have to work at relationships, whether it be one with family, friends, a loved one or ourselves. In turn, a successful relationship can truly be appreciated. A similar approach can be taken with anything in your life.
Negatives are positives.
Life always has meaning and purpose.
“If you ask yourself if anything is meaningful, you’ll find that everything is…no doubt.”
Peter Bjorn and John – “Stay This Way”
If I had to describe my lifestyle and overall approach to life in a time signature, it would be 4/4. For those that aren’t big on music theory, a time signature basically tells you how music is counted. The top 4 tells you how many beats to count and the bottom 4 tells you what kind of note to count, whether it’s a whole note, half note, quarter note, etc. In this case, 4 refers to a quarter note. Ok, boring, but what this boils down to is the simplest and most straightforward time signature.
I always find myself enjoying songs that have a relatively simple beat and fill the spaces in between with a little more flavor. Like 4/4, I’d say my life is pretty consistent, somewhat normal and has a general feeling of completeness to it. Some try to do too much and some do too little, but living a 4/4 lifestyle feels just right. It allows for a nice mix of family, friends, work, hobbies, relaxation and anything else you may be in to.
While I feel like this is a great general approach to living, too much of anything is never a good thing. In order to remain hungry in life, keep things interesting. Never let yourself fall into a pattern, any pattern. Get up, go to work, come home, relax…great. Tomorrow, do something different. Set goals at work. Plan a dinner with a loved one. Go to the gym…anything. Just remember to keep your life interesting no matter how simple your time signature may be.
“Modern Man” by Arcade Fire is a fantastic song that has a different feel to it because of a funky time signature. Like this song, keep your life interesting by changing your “time signature”. While 4/4 may be a great way to stay consistent and keep things on an even keel, consistency leads to boredom. Change with the times, always keep learning and apply that to your life.